Matrescence: Loss of Identity in Motherhood
Before becoming a mum, you’ll probably have known about some of the physical changes during pregnancy and after birth from other mums and from the media. You’ll also have become aware of how different your body looks and feels compared to in your old life pre-child(ren).
There can be pressures externally from people you know and from all types of media to “bounce back” to how you looked before becoming a mum.
How to Find an Identity Outside of Being a Mum
There can be a tendency to want to try and get your old life back, but you're a different person now. Everyone has a different experience of motherhood, however there will be aspects that mums share.
Discovering a Purpose Outside Motherhood
I always think that mums don’t need another reminder about why they should want to “have it all.”
Because “all” isn’t always what you want.
It’s just what you’ve been told to chase and strive for. Even when deep down you know that trying to do it all is exhausting.